Hey, ASSHOLE, Thanks a Bunch!

Hey guys! So, this is going to be a little different from my usual stuff. I need to vent a bit. Here goes:


Yesterday, someone who is very loosely acquainted with my boyfriend, and even less acquainted with me, took it upon himself to tell my boyfriend that I am not good enough for him. Yeah, you read that right −a virtual stranger fixed his mouth (or fingers to type, in this case) to tell Dean some craziness like that!

This man went on to give all these “reasons” why I am not on Dean’s level and should be left behind because, and here’s the best part, I’m holding him back! Well, I’m sure you can guess that I didn’t much appreciate that, but before I get into all the reasons why this guy is way off base, let me give you a little background.

Dean and I are REALLY dedicated to and involved with personal growth. We pretty much eat, breathe, and sleep it all day, everyday. We’re always finding ways to stay connected to that passion for progression so we, yes WE, created a FB group dedicated to personal growth. We’ve been painstakingly selective with the members added because we wanted to make sure it was a good environment for people at all different levels of personal growth.

It’s been a really good thing so far and several people have gotten a lot of value out of being able to converse and network with like-minded individuals. Yesterday, I posted in the group that I was happy to announce that I now have an accountability partner who happens to be close to Dean and is in our group. I was really happy to share that because I’m not someone who pretends to have my shit together. I KNOW I don’t and I’m not ashamed to admit I could use any and all support.


Well, little did I know, that would trigger Mr. Asshole to decide he needed to save “Dean’s life” from his wretched girlfriend. Haha. Well, please allow me to enlighten you all (and the asshole) on just how awful I really am. For Dean’s business, I am the one who wrote all the copy, from top to bottom, on his wonderful bottles for his product. Me. I wrote it in about 6 minutes because I am just AWESOME like that.

In addition to that, many of the ideas he is now using or was inspired by were mine. I was and am happy to share my intellect with him because at the end of the day, that’s my boo. His success means a great deal to me, just as mine means the same to him. It’s called fucking teamwork, yo. Heard of it, Mr. Asshole?

I don’t need to have it all figured out and neither does Dean. Hell, WHO does have it all figured out? I want to find that person because from where I’m sitting, I don’t see perfection anywhere. I admit that we are all at different levels in this game called Life, but I don’t ever think that I am BETTER (or less, for that matter) than anyone else. Where’s the value in that?

What can be gained from seeing yourself in an elevated position so long as you can look down upon others? That’s not what growth is about, people. If you’re still doing things like that, then guess what? YOU have some growing still to do. There is ALWAYS something to be learned from someone who has different struggles than your own.

Business Partners Helping Each Other
Be the hand to help, not the one to hinder.


It’s important for me to live in my truth. I try to do that every single day and I am BRUTALLY honest with myself. I don’t need to look at someone else and point out their shortcomings; I have my own to work on. I no longer look outside of myself to criticize. There are plenty of areas of opportunity right in my mirror and I welcome the challenge every single day.

To all the people who are struggling with their issues, their trauma, their depression, their rage, their fear, their conflict, and their strife, this post is dedicated to YOU! You, the reader living with these unbearable things and still choosing to continue the good fight. Please don’t let one asshole, or 20, deter you from your path of personal growth.

Allow it to feed that fire of progressiveness that burns inside you. Encourage your friends and family who may also be struggling by continuously shining brightly and bravely. Please believe me when I tell you that you are worthy of self-love and self-admiration and as soon as you start to believe that, other people will see it and be inspired by you.

I believe in you and I know you can continue on even when the pain feels like it’s burying you. Please know that it isn’t unless you allow it. You hold all the power to your destiny and no one can take that from you. Don’t let some random stranger derail you. Know your own damn worth and fight back in a positive way. There’s nothing that says FUCK YOU louder than the boisterous sound of SUCCESS and OVERCOMING!

And when all else fails, light up a blunt and start again tomorrow. You got this.

Til next time, friends.

Hardy Har

The Pursuit of Higher Self

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