5 Ways to Begin Transforming Your Life


Mango Cookies (hybrid)

Photo Courtesy of Pearl Pharma

Hey guys! Welcome back to my little blog.

Because this post is less about the weed and more about the 5 steps, I don’t talk about cannabis at all; however, I’d like to give a brief note about the high:

Can I just say how much I LOVE any Cookies strain? Cookies strains, aka Girl Scout Cookies, are sativa dominant and always bring that fun, energetic high I love so much. The Mango part of the combo sweeps through with that lovable relaxation and focus thanks, to its indica notes. This combination allowed me to write this thoughtful post AND do a long and challenging workout. I would write a little and stop to work out. This went on for what seemed like hours! The energy boost I got was super needed, but it wasn’t so over the top that I couldn’t be reflective and focused. This is a marvelous strain and I recommend you give it a shot if you can find it where you are. Now, on to the post!


Photo courtesy of SD Times

Today my mind has been going in 10387834 directions all at once, but one topic that keeps cycling through is that of change. Now, I speak (and write) about change quite a bit lately, but this one is a little different to me.

For the past few weeks, several people have come out the woodwork to say variations of the same exclamation that sounds something like, “Hey, you’ve changed SO much! How did you do it?” And each time someone says that to me, I experience two thoughts: 1. you’re seeking MY advice? and 2. I haven’t changed, but am always in the process of changing.

The first thought is just silly self-doubt popping up to say hello. It can’t be anything more than that because why would it be? People are only going to seek information from a source they trust has the answer. So, in their eyes, I must have it all figured out, right? Not exactly, BUT I am willing and able to share my truths. If someone finds value in those truths, who am I to deny them access to information? This brings me to point numero dos!



I am so thrilled my changes have become apparent through the eyes of others, but in my way of thinking, I still have many more changes to perform and many lessons to learn. There is always room for growth. Never again do I want to become as I was: complacent and stuck. I much prefer the revolving doors of change.

There was a time in my life (not all that long ago) during which I lived fully in the Land of Complacency. I was stuck and bored and clueless to it all. Now I have friends and family seeking my advice. Guys, that shit still boggles my mind! So, with that in mind, I thought it would be fun to write a How To post regarding the topic of personal transformation.

The five “steps” below are the exact steps I have taken to begin transforming my life, but not necessarily in this order. Though the steps are numbered, you can arrange them however you see fit. Remember, everything I write is based on my experiences. Your life experiences will certainly differ from mine, but I think this could be a helpful starting point for creating your own way to transformation.


1. Accept your shortcomings.

Easier said than done, right? Yeah, I know it seems that way, but it truly isn’t hard. The act of actually admitting and accepting your faults really is quite simple. What is challenging, and frankly, downright miserable is facing all the feelings about those shortcomings. For example, I needed to finally accept my own hand in the course my life has taken, for not only the good, but the bad, too. I didn’t like how it felt to admit that I made a bad decision that yielded a negative consequence, but once I finally allowed myself to feel the disappointment, I was able to grow from it. The same can happen for you.

2. Get to know your true self.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to realize you DO NOT KNOW IT ALL! Yes, I know for some of us that is tough one, but let’s face it: many of us have no idea who the hell we really are! In not knowing who we are, we are vastly unaware of how we impact our own lives and the lives of others with our ignorance of self. Question your likes and dislikes. Believe it or not, but you’ve been molded by your parents, society, religion, and social norms. It’s okay to admit you still have some learning to do. I assure you, when you start thinking in this way, you’ve already completed a change!

Take up a quiet hobby like writing. You don’t have to be James Baldwin when you put pen to paper, so don’t feel discouraged if you don’t deem yourself a “writer.” Writing is a great way to be self-reflective. Keeping a journal would be effective in learning about yourself. Write about your day in immense detail; focus on the interactions with people you had, and then read it again. Chances are you will find something helpful in your notes to propel your journey ahead. Make sure to notate the questions you may ask yourself. Having more questions than answers is a huge sign of progress! Give it a go and see where it takes you.


Mentor word cloud


3. Find a mentor!

Dean recommended this to me and I thanked him tremendously for the idea! He doesn’t know it, but he has been my mentor these last almost 6 years. He had information I needed, but couldn’t quite understand. His patience, kindness, and tough-love approach eventually began to take root and grow.

For you, finding someone to light the path is absolutely necessary. You want someone who clearly possesses experience and knowledge you don’t have. These people are usually very successful in business, relationships, parenting, and finances. They are full of helpful advice and offer a fresh perspective.

4. Upgrade your social circle!!!!

Yo, this step is SO necessary, but it’s a doozy! If you’re trying to improve your life, but your circle of friends are stuck in the loop of never going anywhere meaningful, then guess what: it’s time to move the hell on! Just like you are what you eat, you are also the company you keep! Similarly to finding a mentor, you want to seek friendships from people who have information you don’t. Maybe they are young entrepreneurs and have the drive and stamina to motivate a small country. Or maybe they are community volunteers/leaders or even stay-at-home moms. Whoever these positive light-shining people are, find them. Chances are, you know someone who fits this bill already. Believe me when I tell you like attracts like. If your friends are garbage, so is everything they touch. Don’t be garbage. Be golden!



5. Be loving to yourself.

This is, in my opinion, the most important step. Loving yourself can be done in a variety of ways. It can be from personal grooming like haircuts, manis and pedis, or working out to indulging in a favorite activity such as singing, reading, or writing. Whatever you choose to do, be mindful of the purpose: self-love and self-care. Whatever you uncover about yourself during your “me-time,” remember to affirm OUT LOUD your love for yourself. Everything begins and ends with you in that beautiful life of yours!


As usual, I truly hope you were able to find some value in this post. It felt really good to write and it feels even better when people find my pieces helpful or inspiring. Thank you for reading and please give this post a share to anyone you know that might need a boost in a new direction.

Til next time,

Hardy Har

The Pursuit of Higher Self


5 thoughts on “5 Ways to Begin Transforming Your Life

  1. I love these steps! I definitely agree with getting a mentor and ensuring that the people around you are on the same page as you. You don’t need anyone around you holding you back. Now about these cookies lol! I can never get over the taste, unfortunately. Plus, they all seem to make me nauseous. Perhaps because I’m not used to it.

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    1. Thank you! Yes, mentorship and social circles are so pivotal in our successes and failures! People don’t pay enough attention to that area and unfortunately, it begins to show.


    2. I hit send a little too quickly! Haha. So, this strain is called Mango Cookies, but it’s not an edible. I smoked the strain, but I feel similarly to you in regards to the taste of edibles in general. There are some candies I really enjoy, but I rarely eat them. I need to up my edible game. Lol


      1. Lol! I recently had cotton candy (hybrid strain) and it was definitely better than the others I had. The taste wasn’t as strong, I guess because of the cotton candy flavor. I’ll definitely have to look into Mango Cookies.

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      2. We almost bought Cotton Candy last week! Haha! I believe that is an indica-dom hybrid which is the perfect balance to avoid headaches and upset stomachs. If you aren’t smoking with a bubbler, I’d say get one and see how you like it. The water and ice help a lot with the burn and taste. I loooooove my water bongs! I make all kinds of flavored ice to help with the taste.


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